<![CDATA[The Remarkable Blog - Blog]]>Thu, 14 Dec 2017 19:55:45 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[Detoxifying our relationships #4]]>Fri, 15 Dec 2017 08:00:00 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/detoxifying-our-relationships-4If you've been following along with us we have been looking at ways to detoxify our relationships. We have suggested discovering our spouses, or family members triggers, encouraging one another and spending time with God, alone and with our loved ones. Today we look at the letter "O" for optimism, outlook, open-minded, obstacles and overcoming. Yes, I know that's a lot of "O's" but Oh, how we need all of these, just like we need oxygen. It is necessary to be optimistic, and having a good outlook to the future, and to one another. To detoxify our relationships we need to be open-minded, and overcome obstacles together instead of seeing the obstacles between us. When we fail to do these things, we get toxic and begin to spill those toxins on those we love the most.
We must remember the "One another" in the relationships we desire to flourish. When we are toxic we see the me, not the other person. We forget to admonish the other person for all the reasons we fell in love with them in the first place. We tend to be pessimistic instead of optimistic, when we are toxic. We tend to be so close-minded that we keep thinking how right we are and how wrong others are. We feel as though the relationship is simply not worth it anymore.

This time of year it is a great opportunity to admonish the ones we love. To give the relationship another go. To find the good in the people we love, and see them with optimism again is a challenge, but yes you can, if you just get a fresh out-look. Ask God to open up your heart again, so you can see what you have that's worth detoxifying yourself, and your relationship for? You may be surprised how good you have it. The grass may be greener on the other side, but sometimes it's because that green is over the septic tank. Could what you can't see, in other's relationships be smellier than yours? Don't waste your time comparing, but detoxifying the relationship you have.
<![CDATA[Detoxifying our relationships #3]]>Thu, 14 Dec 2017 08:00:00 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/detoxifying-our-relationships-3Well, if you have been following me here at RPMDaily you know that I am doing a small series on detoxifying our relationships day three. Today our letter "T". If we want to detoxify our relationships we need to take "T"- Time. However, the time we spend with God, alone and with our loved ones, can help detoxify not just ourself but our relationships. We can't give others what we don't have ourself. Most people myself included want peace and understanding. We want unconditional love and someone to be on our side. The only way that we can give those wants to others, is to find the source of those wants.  The source is Jesus. Once we realize that time spent with him, and alone, will help us to sacrifice, and schedule, our life to give the gift of time.
Psalm 90:12 (NIV) "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom."
So, the challenge of the day is to give the gift of time to those you love. If you don't schedule it, it will never happen. Literally, pick a date, and time, and it will give you something to look forward to.You may even find that you are beginning to have more time than you thought you did.
Romans 13:11 (NIV) " And do this, understanding the present time: The hour has already come for you to wake up from your slumber, because our salvation is nearer now than when we first believed."
<![CDATA[Detoxifying our relationships #2]]>Wed, 13 Dec 2017 13:35:40 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/december-13th-2017Yesterday I started a new series on Detoxifying our relationships. We began learning about the letter "D" for discover the triggers that set our spouse, or loved one off. Which in turn causes us to react instead of responding in a kind appropriate manner. Today we are looking at the letter "E", empty the negative and replace it with encouragement. Encouragement is a relationship builder for all relationships. At work, home, with friends, family and your spouse, encouragement goes a long way.
There are those people that are just naturally born encouragers. Other temperaments struggle to encourage themselves let alone others. Some need to be encouraged more than others due to their past history, temperament and even where they are in life. For example those that deal with pain or a long term illness need lots of encouragement, and so, when dealing with these people get ready before you need to be with them. In this case remember it is better to give than to receive. There is a great scripture in the Bible that says as we water others we are ourself refreshed. 
Proverbs 11:25 (NLT) "The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed."
So today you and I have the opportunity to encourage others. Let's get out there and do something about the "Hum Bugs" that tend to go around this time of year. LEt's give the gift of encouragement. This is a gift that can not just change someone's day but change their life. When you change the way someone feels better about themselves then they feel better about life.

So detoxify today with the universal panacea of "E" encouragement.

<![CDATA[Detoxifying your Relationships]]>Tue, 12 Dec 2017 08:00:00 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/detoxifying-your-relationshipsFor the next several days I will be using the word "DETOX" to help you detoxify your relationships. This first letter "​D" is for discover. We all have those triggers that set us off. It can be the smallest things that turn into the biggest fights. So, it only makes sense to find out what our loved ones triggers are, and make a conscious effort to avoid setting off the trigger. Maybe it's questioning them? You may want details and the next thing you know, you're off to the fireworks. They took the question as a lack of trust in them, or that you thought they were wrong. Yes, I know that's not what you meant, but that was a trigger for them. Your questioning pulled the trigger. Now the gun fight is on. Usually at this point someone is going to walk away with a bullet wound, and it could be fatal.  Picture
Lots of people get hurt from friendly fire. You're in a bad mood and someone walks in, and they catch a bullet too. Didn't mean to hit them with our best shot, but we were loaded for bear, and well, with our nerves bare we just got trigger happy. Can't take that bullet back. Now we have just made a bad day worse. We just discovered that trigger in the other person's life, but it also exposed our weakness to handle situations properly. 

Time to detox. When we discover another person's trigger we are responsible to handle with care. We don't go pointing guns at people. We don't usually carry loaded weapons unless, we're ready for a fight. Travel with care, not just over the holidays, but all year long. Keep an eye on the trigger, and make sure no one gets shot!
Luke 6:31 (NIV) "Do to others as you would have them do to you."
<![CDATA[Do you ever lack the desire to do the things you need to?]]>Mon, 11 Dec 2017 02:50:21 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/do-you-ever-lack-the-desire-to-do-the-things-you-need-toWhen we have to do things we don't want to do we feel all alone. We feel like we are the only one who has ever had to do the things we don't want, or feel like doing. We don't have to look very far to find this isn't the truth. Here in this scripture below, we read the words Paul wrote to the Romans while under the divine inspiration of the Holy Spirit. Whenever we find ourselves alone and struggling, we can be assured by the word of God we are never alone.
Romans 7:15-20 (NET) " For I don’t understand what I am doing. For I do not do what I want—instead, I do what I hate.  But if I do what I don’t want, I agree that the law is good.  But now it is no longer me doing it, but sin that lives in me.  For I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my flesh. For I want to do the good, but I cannot do it.  For I do not do the good I want, but I do the very evil I do not want! Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer me doing it but sin that lives in me."
All this month at Restoration Church International we are sharing on being alone. Sometimes being alone is just a feeling, other times it is a reality. Either way we can be assured that Jesus is as close as the mention of His name. All we have to do is call upon His name. 

Psalm 145:18 (NIV) "
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth."

The next time you find yourself alone, feeling like you just don't want to do what you know your supposed to do, call on Jesus. Jesus can define things for us. Jesus can comfort us and bring clarity to our situations. He is our strength in time of trouble. 

Psalm 46 (KJV) "
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea;Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof. Selah.There is a river, the streams whereof shall make glad the city of God, the holy place of the tabernacles of the most High. God is in the midst of her; she shall not be moved: God shall help her, and that right early.The heathen raged, the kingdoms were moved: he uttered his voice, the earth melted. The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge. Selah.Come, behold the works of the Lord, what desolations he hath made in the earth. He maketh wars to cease unto the end of the earth; he breaketh the bow, and cutteth the spear in sunder; he burneth the chariot in the fire. Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth. The Lord of hosts is with us; the God of Jacob is our refuge. Selah."
Today and tomorrow there are things I have to do, that I don't want to do. However, then it's over. No one can do them for me. I must do them alone. When I prayed about all of it, and gave it much thought, I quit feeling sorry for myself and started thinking about others, and how every day there are those that are trapped and feel alone. They don't know Jesus. They have never called upon His name. Some don't even know His name. That's when I realized I never have to be alone, because I can reach out to Jesus, and He alone can give me purpose and strength, not just for the day but for my life. Then, I in turn can reach out to others and comfort them with the same comfort with which I am comforted. 

Some people's situations are not going to change until they meet my Jesus, and He becomes their Jesus. I am never alone. Regardless of what my feelings say. Feelings lie. Jesus is with us. Emmanuel means He is with us.
Matthew 1:23 (NIV) ""The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel" (which means "God with us")."
<![CDATA[Marriage Moments]]>Fri, 08 Dec 2017 13:14:03 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/marriage-moments In every marriage there are moments that are worth a life time. Think with me for a moment about the photographs in your mind. The day you said, "I do". The day you bought your dress. The birth of your first child. Your first home. Your first Christmas. All the special intimate times you shared together. Photographs in your mind that made up your special "Marriage Moments" can begin to fade over the years. This is why it is so important to make new memories along the way. Try new things. Go new places. To do something new, you have to be willing to take a chance and become new, yourself.

​The Bible tells us to renew our minds daily. This seems easy until we try doing it in our marriage. Then we want to hang on to the old mate, and beat them up for what they did 20 years ago. When we married, we married a human being. Human being are marred. (Jeremiah 18:4) If we renew our mind then we think differently, about everything, and everyone. Too often we want to pick and chose what room we want to remodel, and burn down the rest of the house. This is a formula for disappointment and disaster. 
We get so caught up in the "Blame Game", we forget that we are 50% of the marriage. The "Blame Game" is that game our older brother Adam taught us in the garden. When you are negligent in your area of responsibilities, "Blame" the other spouse. We forget that we have issues, made mistakes and are a flawed vessel ourself. We want perfect from our spouse, when we are an imperfect. So, what is there, that we can do? We can spend time with the Potter ourself. Allow Him to make us into "another vessel". He can change everything. The Potter is known to make perfect the imperfect. The Potter is the creator of marriage, and He knows exactly what to do to make our marriages new again.
Register today for our upcoming Marriage Seminar and get the tools you need to repair the brokenness in you and in your marriage.
<![CDATA[Marriage 101~Marriage is a choice]]>Thu, 07 Dec 2017 12:21:09 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/marriage-101marriage-is-a-choiceThere are numerous reasons people marry. Some want to settle down, and start a family. Others don't want to do life alone. Still others feel it's just time. The one that get's me is, "I found someone I can live with." This is the answer that really gets me, because it's not finding someone we can live with that should bring us to the altar, but finding the person we can't live with out. When we find someone we can't see ourselves living without, it helps us to change. It helps us to become more than we are capable of being. Love will cause someone to run into a burning house. Love will enable someone to lift a car. We have all seen what love is cable of doing. I would even go further and say love has no limits. 

God loved so much He gave His only Son. Jesus loved so much He gave His life. When we are born again we love so much we die to self, take up our cross and live for Christ. There in is love. Love is limitless in it's ability to give up, to take up. Give up what it wants, for the sake of giving to others what they need.

Once we say, "I do." Then we married the right person. Up until that point, we were free to choose. However, once the choice is made, we must stick with our choice. Unlike children who are allowed to pick a piece of candy, then run back and want to exchange it, marriage confronts us with adult decisions that are irreversible. When God sent Jesus it was irreversible. When Jesus gave His life it was irreversible. God is in to choices. He tells us chose this day who we will serve. God tells us we can't serve two masters. Today choose. Choose your mate all over again. Choose to say, "Yes", all over again. Register at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/marriage-seminar-2018-tickets-40111994054
Mark 10:9 (NIV) "Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
<![CDATA[What happens in a Marriage when the opposites attract?]]>Wed, 06 Dec 2017 12:56:39 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/what-happens-in-a-marriage-when-the-opposites-attractOpposites attract sometimes that's good, sometimes that's a challenge. In my own marriage it has been a gigantic challenge. Minors become majors once you say, "I do". My husband is a morning person. I am a night person. I really turn on my best part of the day around 3 PM, his turns on around 4 AM. That eleven hour difference is huge in a marriage but, being in ministry that works for us. No matter when one of our children needed something at least one of us was usually awake. Our children hated that. 

Then there is the opposite way our bodies react to food. When my husband eats he wants to go lay down somewhere and take a nap. On the other end of the spectrum when I need to eat I am almost dead. However, as soon as I eat it's like I turn into the energizer bunny. Once I've got gas in my tank I am ready for the road.

Why does God do that? Well, God didn't do anything. We did. It is called freedom of choice. All those things that drove you to the altar now drive you to the same altar for different reasons. We were attracted to what we didn't have. Talkers are attracted to clams who go in their shell. Oh sure, at first we get to do all the talking because we finally found someone to listen but the other person soon thinks, "How can I get them to shut up instead of, I'm so glad I didn't have to think about what to say. We got along so great."

Here's the biggie. What happens when, within the opposites there is an area where you are alike? Do you think everything runs smoother?  No.......friction still occurs. When a strong man, marries a strong woman, it can be even worst than when opposites attract. But, there is a solution to all these issues in marriage. It is called sacrificial love. I am not talking about enabling, or being motivated, or controlled by fear, and it is certainly not dishonesty. It is understanding how God made our spouse and working with them rather than against them. 

So, for the next couple days I plan to share some hints and helps for Marriages. Even if your not married. People are people. We can all use a little help in the people department. 

I hope to see you here. For even more helps register for the above event coming soon.

Ephesians 5:25: “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her." Genesis 2:24: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."
<![CDATA[Missing those we love over the holidays? There is hope.]]>Tue, 05 Dec 2017 08:00:00 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/missing-those-we-love-over-the-holidays-there-is-hopeThere was always magic in the air when my father was alive. You just never knew what he was up to. He loved surprises. He said my name like a song. When he saw me he always told me how pretty I was, and that I smelled good. Needless to say I learned that from him. He always smelled so good. After he died I went into the bathroom and opened his medicine cabinet and took an almost empty bottle of his favorite cologne. I still take it out and smell it every now and then. Daddy loved to look good and smell nice, and he loved it when I did too. He was a good, good, father. I can only imagine how good God must be because I know He is greater than any earthly father could ever be. I look forward to seeing both my earthly father again and my Heavenly Father for the first time, face to face.
This is a photo of my father and I in 1956. That smile on his face was the same smile that looked back at me all my life. The same smile I miss each day. I am so glad for the word of God that tells me I will see him again. The word of God encourages me everyday of my life. The word of God brings light into every situation. 

This holiday season if you are having a hard time know that God tells us in His word that He works all things--not some things, all things together for the good of those that love Him and are called by His name.

Romans 8:28 (KJV) "And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."
There is coming a day when He shall return and we that are alive will be caught up with Him. There is coming a day when there will be no more tears. Run the race set before you. There is coming a day!
<![CDATA[A day of self-care]]>Mon, 04 Dec 2017 08:00:00 GMThttp://rpmdaily.net/blog/a-day-of-self-careSome days, I declare and decree to be self-care days, days of rest. A true Sabbath. Today is one of those days. I have preached 3 times in 3 days and went to two Christmas parties, cleaned 2 houses and baked 39 dozen Biscotti. So today...I bask in His love and presence, and He refills this vessel.
So, until tomorrow when I am refreshed and renewed, I pray you will enjoy this beautiful video as much as I am. Oh, and PS I got to spend yesterday afternoon with my two grandsons. This NaNa is one tired grandma.

Exodus 20:8-10 (NIV) "
 “Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy.  Six days you shall labor and do all your work,  but the seventh day is a sabbath to the LORD your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns."