Proverbs 19:18
Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death.
Colossians 3:21
"Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged."
Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death.
Colossians 3:21
"Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged."
One may not consider abandonment or childhood emotional neglect as child abuse. However if you ask an adult who has such a childhood they would definitely disagree. Look up the definition of abuse and you will find it is the misuse of something or someone, to use for a bad purpose, treat with cruelty, or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly. One of the greatest feas of a child is to be left alone, to have a parent or caretaker leave them.
When a child is robbed of their childhood and has to grow up too quickly it puts enormous stress on the child. The child becomes responsible at an inappropriate age and this may altar their maturity as an adult. Many children today are taking care of their alcoholic parents or drug addicted care givers and are also expected to care for their siblings, missing school and learning to lie to cover up problems at home. This responsibility at too early an age will set them up for many troubles in later life.
The Bible prohibits child abuse in many ways, one is forbidding of psychological and emotional abuse. Ephesians 6:4 warns fathers not to “exasperate” or provoke their children but to bring them up in the “training and instruction of the Lord.” Harsh, unloving verbal discipline, emotional manipulation, or volatile environments alienate children’s minds from their parents and render their instruction and correction useless. Parents can provoke and exasperate their children by placing unreasonable requirements on them, belittling them, or constantly finding fault, thereby producing wounds that can be as bad as or worse than any physical beating can inflict. Colossians 3:21 tells us not to “embitter” our children so they will not become discouraged. Ephesians 4:15–19 says we are to speak the truth in love and use our words to build others up, not allow rotten or destructive words to pour from our lips, especially toward the tender hearts and minds of children.
ACTION STEP: If you have been abused or abandoned by a parent at a young age or by a significant person or spouse in your adult years, be kind to yourself. You may experience trust issues now--that's normal. You may have anxiety--that's normal too. But, God can heal. It's not an overnight deal, but it is possible. Maybe you have been abused verbally and now your not sure about yourself? You can become the confident person God intended you to be. In this life we will have trials, but there is a God and He has overcome them all and He is here to help you. He helped me.
I believe in you and you need to believe in yourself.
When a child is robbed of their childhood and has to grow up too quickly it puts enormous stress on the child. The child becomes responsible at an inappropriate age and this may altar their maturity as an adult. Many children today are taking care of their alcoholic parents or drug addicted care givers and are also expected to care for their siblings, missing school and learning to lie to cover up problems at home. This responsibility at too early an age will set them up for many troubles in later life.
The Bible prohibits child abuse in many ways, one is forbidding of psychological and emotional abuse. Ephesians 6:4 warns fathers not to “exasperate” or provoke their children but to bring them up in the “training and instruction of the Lord.” Harsh, unloving verbal discipline, emotional manipulation, or volatile environments alienate children’s minds from their parents and render their instruction and correction useless. Parents can provoke and exasperate their children by placing unreasonable requirements on them, belittling them, or constantly finding fault, thereby producing wounds that can be as bad as or worse than any physical beating can inflict. Colossians 3:21 tells us not to “embitter” our children so they will not become discouraged. Ephesians 4:15–19 says we are to speak the truth in love and use our words to build others up, not allow rotten or destructive words to pour from our lips, especially toward the tender hearts and minds of children.
ACTION STEP: If you have been abused or abandoned by a parent at a young age or by a significant person or spouse in your adult years, be kind to yourself. You may experience trust issues now--that's normal. You may have anxiety--that's normal too. But, God can heal. It's not an overnight deal, but it is possible. Maybe you have been abused verbally and now your not sure about yourself? You can become the confident person God intended you to be. In this life we will have trials, but there is a God and He has overcome them all and He is here to help you. He helped me.
I believe in you and you need to believe in yourself.
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