Experience is not what happened to you, it's what you do with what happened to you.
How do I know this? Because I have been abandoned and rejected numerous times. This caused me to have low self-esteem, impaired my ability to trust others, be overly zealous to please others, to have a sense of jealousy, to control or worst yet allow myself to be controlled, and at times turn away from people for fear of being rejected and abandoned again. This is just a list of some of things I had to fight, that were constantly at war with me and who I am; and worst yet, enemies of my destiny that I am still fighting to overcome.
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How do I know this? Because I have been abandoned and rejected numerous times. This caused me to have low self-esteem, impaired my ability to trust others, be overly zealous to please others, to have a sense of jealousy, to control or worst yet allow myself to be controlled, and at times turn away from people for fear of being rejected and abandoned again. This is just a list of some of things I had to fight, that were constantly at war with me and who I am; and worst yet, enemies of my destiny that I am still fighting to overcome.
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I'd like to say I have slain all these giants, but fact of the matter is--I am still at war. I know I have won the battle and have the victory in Christ, but daily I must renew my mind and set myself on a path of continued correction. What do I mean by that? I mean that when I think one way I must align that thought with the word of God and the truth about what I am feeling. Feelings lie. Just because we feel a certain way does not mean that something or someone is that way. What are the facts? Have you asked any questions of yourself, others or God? Assumptions can lead us down the wrong path quickly and off the cliff. Sometimes, I just need someone to talk me off the ledge.
I have thought that a person didn't like me. Truth was they were intimidated by me. Why? Because I came off over confident because in reality I was covering up for my low self-esteem. Another time someone share with me that a particular group of women did not like me and the reason was, they thought I was "Stuck-up." The person sharing with me knew better, but confided that because I tried so hard to be perfect and wouldn't allow anyone in, to really know me--but rather kept them at arms distance, they assumed I thought I was better than them. In reality, I was afraid to trust them. I was afraid of being hurt.
It's interesting how when you age, you care less about what others think and if Jesus is your Lord...you care more about what He thinks and helping others learn (OPE-by Other Peoples Experiences) rather than the hard way you had to learn.
I have thought that a person didn't like me. Truth was they were intimidated by me. Why? Because I came off over confident because in reality I was covering up for my low self-esteem. Another time someone share with me that a particular group of women did not like me and the reason was, they thought I was "Stuck-up." The person sharing with me knew better, but confided that because I tried so hard to be perfect and wouldn't allow anyone in, to really know me--but rather kept them at arms distance, they assumed I thought I was better than them. In reality, I was afraid to trust them. I was afraid of being hurt.
It's interesting how when you age, you care less about what others think and if Jesus is your Lord...you care more about what He thinks and helping others learn (OPE-by Other Peoples Experiences) rather than the hard way you had to learn.
Action Steps: Do a time line of your life and write down all the significant events in your life. Then take a good look at what you wrote. What stood out? Why? Those memories stood out for a reason. Ask the hard questions of yourself, such as why did I pick that? How did that change me? Is there anything I can learn from it?
If you're like me you will begin to recognize an event in which something changed. Something got dropped. It was more valuable than that cell phone. It was a gift--a calling, that is necessary to pick back up, and use it to get to your destiny.
Catch up with me tomorrow as we continue to journey through 2021 an be Awakened to our best year yet! Let's pick up what we dropped.
If you're like me you will begin to recognize an event in which something changed. Something got dropped. It was more valuable than that cell phone. It was a gift--a calling, that is necessary to pick back up, and use it to get to your destiny.
Catch up with me tomorrow as we continue to journey through 2021 an be Awakened to our best year yet! Let's pick up what we dropped.
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