“Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them.” ― Alain de Botton
The definition according to merriam-webster of the word intimacy is a state marked by emotional closeness, something that is very personal or private.
A definition I like better that I’ve heard from several speakers on the topic but to none that I am aware of originated it is, “In to me you see.” It is one person allowing another person to look into their soul. The soul being made up of one’s mind, will, emotion and intellect. Being intimate involves the mixing of our life with another's, a mingling of souls, a sharing of hearts. This is something we all long for because it's how God made us. We were designed to connect.
The only way to truly be intimate with someone is to allow them to see who you are—on the inside. It’s not about just sharing facts it’s about sharing feelings. In order to share feelings one must recognize they have them and be okay with what they feel themselves. Because God made us, He intimately knows us better than anyone can. For this reason, He can make us feel known in a way that no one on earth is able; and in this we can experience intimacy in an indescribable way. Intimacy with God through His Son Jesus has been the most rewarding and life-changing thing I have ever experienced.
As I grow older I realize how few people have real intimate relationships. They have lots of friends, family, co-workers, neighbors but no one who really knows them or whom they know. As I was thinking on this it dawned on me in order to know others we have to be okay with knowing ourselves and sharing that part of ourselves with others. This takes time, patience, understanding and risk. Too few people are risk takers. Risk takers trust. They trust a rope, a car, their own abilities, or others abilities just to name a few. When we trust God to meet our needs and take care of us we can begin to learn to trust others.
Action step: Begin to learn about yourself. Journal feelings for a week or so. Ask yourself some tough questions and take the time to answer those tough questions. What do you like about yourself? What frightens you? How do you feel about your relationship with the Lord? Do you trust Him? We usually only trust people we know very well. If you find you’re having trouble in the area of intimacy try spending more time with the Lord and trusting Him first. Then watch your ability to be intimate with others grow.
Matthew 11:27 (KJV) "All things have been handed over to Me by My Father; and no one knows the Son except the Father; nor does anyone know the Father except the Son, and anyone to whom the Son wills to reveal Him.”
The definition according to merriam-webster of the word intimacy is a state marked by emotional closeness, something that is very personal or private.
A definition I like better that I’ve heard from several speakers on the topic but to none that I am aware of originated it is, “In to me you see.” It is one person allowing another person to look into their soul. The soul being made up of one’s mind, will, emotion and intellect. Being intimate involves the mixing of our life with another's, a mingling of souls, a sharing of hearts. This is something we all long for because it's how God made us. We were designed to connect.
The only way to truly be intimate with someone is to allow them to see who you are—on the inside. It’s not about just sharing facts it’s about sharing feelings. In order to share feelings one must recognize they have them and be okay with what they feel themselves. Because God made us, He intimately knows us better than anyone can. For this reason, He can make us feel known in a way that no one on earth is able; and in this we can experience intimacy in an indescribable way. Intimacy with God through His Son Jesus has been the most rewarding and life-changing thing I have ever experienced.
As I grow older I realize how few people have real intimate relationships. They have lots of friends, family, co-workers, neighbors but no one who really knows them or whom they know. As I was thinking on this it dawned on me in order to know others we have to be okay with knowing ourselves and sharing that part of ourselves with others. This takes time, patience, understanding and risk. Too few people are risk takers. Risk takers trust. They trust a rope, a car, their own abilities, or others abilities just to name a few. When we trust God to meet our needs and take care of us we can begin to learn to trust others.
Action step: Begin to learn about yourself. Journal feelings for a week or so. Ask yourself some tough questions and take the time to answer those tough questions. What do you like about yourself? What frightens you? How do you feel about your relationship with the Lord? Do you trust Him? We usually only trust people we know very well. If you find you’re having trouble in the area of intimacy try spending more time with the Lord and trusting Him first. Then watch your ability to be intimate with others grow.
Matthew 11:27 (KJV) "All things have been handed over to Me by My Father; and no one knows the Son except the Father; nor does anyone know the Father except the Son, and anyone to whom the Son wills to reveal Him.”
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