It's not a try harder relationship but a come closer. Trust God to help you learn to trust people.

Proverbs 8:17
"I love those who love me, And those who seek me diligently will find me."

If you have been abandoned or neglected as a child it's easy to grow up and feel that no one can be trusted and no one really cares. It's a lonely and frustrating existence knowing or at the very least thinking you know that everyone will sooner or later hurt you or desert you. People who truly love you are constantly being hurt by you because they know, you don't trust them. You can't. Because your core belief won't let you. So, what do you do. You start changing your core belief by telling yourself something different and then testing it. Start with trusting God. Start small. Ask God for something, something based on the promises in His word and then stand on it. I mean take Him at His word and wait on Him to fulfill it.

Here's one of the things I did. I know God rejoices in the prosperity of his people. I found it in the word. So, I told God I wanted to make Him rejoice. I told Him I wanted to prosper. I told Him I would do my part but He would need to do His. I wanted to take a course that I thought would help me and eventually help me help others. We didn't have the finances. So, I said, "God if you want me to take this course You will have to pay for it." I was willing to work, but I needed Him to supply the money. I waited on God. God came through and I am still taking the courses. 

I didn't wish. I prayed. I didn't tell everyone. I told God. I thanked Him before He answered. I worshipped Him as you would a good, good Father. I did not doubt Him. I trusted Him. Was it hard? Yes. Was I nervous? Yes. But, I fed my faith and did all I could do and the rest was up to Him. 

ACTION STEP: I challenge you to ask God for something. Find a scripture to stand on concerning your request. Write it down. Pray over it. Thank Him for it. Trust Him. I know it's scary. I know you've been disappointed by people. Your expectations of people have not come through and you've been truly hurt. But, we can't live there. We must keep moving ahead. If we never go anywhere--we will never get anywhere, and life is a journey not a destination.

So, get back in the game of life. Play till you win. Refuse to quit on God or yourself. Together you are a winning combination. God wants you, and you need Him. No attitude. The biblical word for attitude is sin. Our sin cuts us off from God. We all struggle with this. "All have sinned; all fall short of God's glorious standard." Romans 3:23 But, it doesn't end there. "If we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from every wrong." 1 John 1:9

There is no catch. There is not ulterior motive. God loved. That's it. His love just is. We can trust that. Once we trust that then He can help us learn to trust others. Once we know and experience His love, we can love ourselves and others.

You are not unloveable. You are special to God. He wants to have a relationship with you. You, just like me--have to let Him in. Crack the door and learn to trust one day, one promise at a time.

I believe in you and you need to believe in yourself!
You got this.