that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize?
Run in such a way as to get the prize."
The Holy Spirit wants us to lay the crowns we obtain during this life, at the feet of Jesus--but He wants to pace us. He wants to run along side of us, with us. The Holy Spirit is the one who sets the pace. Trust God's word to be true. He will never leave us or forsake us. Regardless, of what others say, it does matter how you start the race if you want to finish well.
Run the race set before you and remember you do not have to run it alone.