This is the last in a four part series on the Mentor and Mentee Relationships. I am a protege of many more experience people, and I am a mentor to many as well. It has been my experience that these relationships can catapult you to where God would have you to be, much quicker than going it alone. I am grateful for all the people God has put in my life. I am blessed because of each relationship.
Mentoring refers to a developmental relationship between a more experienced mentor and a less experienced partner referred to as a mentoree (sometimes vernacularized into mentee) or protégé. It is a one-to-one relationship based on encouragement, constructive comments, openness, mutual trust, respect, and a willingness to learn and share.
It is up to the mentee or protege to do the pursuing. Jesus said, "Come follow me and I will make you..." He did not chase the ones He discipled. I have made the mistake in working harder than those that I have mentored. I do not do that anymore. If you want what I have, then it is your responsibility to come and get it.
I have also found that it needs to cost the mentee something. If we met for lunch for example, then I think the mentee should pick up the tab. I have picked up the tab for years, and all added up, I still got more than I paid for. Sometimes I got a college class in life, that was worth thousands.
The mentee should have an agenda and take notes while the mentor is speaking. Questions from the mentee help the mentor locate the mentee, and navigate him/her from point A to point B, quicker than trying to figure out what the mentee wants or needs. A good mentor is always listening to the Holy Spirit for direction and impartation, as to what God wants and needs him/her to deposit into the life of the mentee.
I have also found that it needs to cost the mentee something. If we met for lunch for example, then I think the mentee should pick up the tab. I have picked up the tab for years, and all added up, I still got more than I paid for. Sometimes I got a college class in life, that was worth thousands.
The mentee should have an agenda and take notes while the mentor is speaking. Questions from the mentee help the mentor locate the mentee, and navigate him/her from point A to point B, quicker than trying to figure out what the mentee wants or needs. A good mentor is always listening to the Holy Spirit for direction and impartation, as to what God wants and needs him/her to deposit into the life of the mentee.
Mentees that do their assignments get another one. We learn by doing. I like the model, "See me do-You do-Then I tweak you-Then you do again and I watch you". In this form of mentoring trust is built because the mentor encourages and corrects and affirms. I was taught "ACE". This is where the mentor A-affirms or applauds, then C-corrects or challenges, and then E-encourages the mentee to try again or improve. The funny yet sad thing about this however, is that soon the mentee thinks when I affirm or applaud them they are about to be corrected or challenged. This is not always the case.
Action Step: Find a mentee or be a mentor. Let's live to make another person's life more meaningful and productive. Live life as a model for others. Be so successful in what you do that others want to be more like you or at least glean from you.
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