Ephesians 5:15-17
"So, then, be careful how you live. Do not be unwise but wise, making the best use of your time because the times are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is."
2 Colossians 4:5
"Behave wisely toward outsiders, making the best use of your time."
"So, then, be careful how you live. Do not be unwise but wise, making the best use of your time because the times are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is."
2 Colossians 4:5
"Behave wisely toward outsiders, making the best use of your time."
I am like the baby above. I am staying busy installing new software into my brain.
I am very curious how many of you have taken me up on the Challenge? Oh, I know you may have adjusted it for your schedule in life, and that's okay. We are all at differing stages. I would not have been able to do the Challenge without a few tweaks myself in my younger days. Working and raising children leaves little time for reading. However, there are several apps out there that can read to you. Audible and Hoopla are two of the ones I like, one is free the other takes a subscription; and of course not all books may be available on either of them.
Due to some course correction and change of my own, I am trying to read more, but am actually struggling. Which is another reason I have not been as consistent as I would like with making my YouTubes. No worries, I shall return. For now I will be content to do my best, after all that is the best any of us can do. So, share with us what you are doing and how you are making course corrections to stay with me on this journey. Below I will share an article with you I found in Psychology Today from June 20, 2019. Here is a copy of the book I am currently reading.
I am very curious how many of you have taken me up on the Challenge? Oh, I know you may have adjusted it for your schedule in life, and that's okay. We are all at differing stages. I would not have been able to do the Challenge without a few tweaks myself in my younger days. Working and raising children leaves little time for reading. However, there are several apps out there that can read to you. Audible and Hoopla are two of the ones I like, one is free the other takes a subscription; and of course not all books may be available on either of them.
Due to some course correction and change of my own, I am trying to read more, but am actually struggling. Which is another reason I have not been as consistent as I would like with making my YouTubes. No worries, I shall return. For now I will be content to do my best, after all that is the best any of us can do. So, share with us what you are doing and how you are making course corrections to stay with me on this journey. Below I will share an article with you I found in Psychology Today from June 20, 2019. Here is a copy of the book I am currently reading.
I also want to share with you how an emotionally unavailable mother can affect us by sharing this excerpt from: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201906/how-recover-emotionally-unavailable-mother
"Unlike a controlling mother or one high in narcissistic traits who deliberately puts her child in the position of being a satellite circling her planet, the emotionally unavailable mother does it unintentionally; the truth is that she wants as little to do with her child except on a superficial level. Yearning for her mother’s love and attention is the hallmark of this daughter and she’ll deal with it by either cutting off her emotions and emotional needs both consciously and unconsciously or becoming subsumed by that yearning. Those who armor themselves suffer from trust issues, an inability to sustain connection, and trouble identifying feelings, and display a dismissive-avoidant or fearful-avoidant style of attachment. Those who are subsumed by their yearning keep trying to get their mothers’ attention, sometimes turning to unhealthy substitutes to fill the hole in their hearts.
Taking steps toward healing
As I explain in my book Daughter Detox, discovery is the first step which entails recognizing your mother’s treatment and then beginning to see how you adapted to it. Behaviors that you’ve always thought were simply inborn parts of your personality often are revealed to be the product of trying to cope or muddle through the emotional environment of your family of origin. Depending on whether you responded to your mother’s lack of emotional availability by trying to storm the citadel (and having an anxious-preoccupied style of attachment) or by deciding you didn’t need her or anyone (by developing a dismissive-avoidant style of attachment), you will want to look at:
"Unlike a controlling mother or one high in narcissistic traits who deliberately puts her child in the position of being a satellite circling her planet, the emotionally unavailable mother does it unintentionally; the truth is that she wants as little to do with her child except on a superficial level. Yearning for her mother’s love and attention is the hallmark of this daughter and she’ll deal with it by either cutting off her emotions and emotional needs both consciously and unconsciously or becoming subsumed by that yearning. Those who armor themselves suffer from trust issues, an inability to sustain connection, and trouble identifying feelings, and display a dismissive-avoidant or fearful-avoidant style of attachment. Those who are subsumed by their yearning keep trying to get their mothers’ attention, sometimes turning to unhealthy substitutes to fill the hole in their hearts.
Taking steps toward healing
As I explain in my book Daughter Detox, discovery is the first step which entails recognizing your mother’s treatment and then beginning to see how you adapted to it. Behaviors that you’ve always thought were simply inborn parts of your personality often are revealed to be the product of trying to cope or muddle through the emotional environment of your family of origin. Depending on whether you responded to your mother’s lack of emotional availability by trying to storm the citadel (and having an anxious-preoccupied style of attachment) or by deciding you didn’t need her or anyone (by developing a dismissive-avoidant style of attachment), you will want to look at:
- How trusting others is an issue in your life
- The degree to which you either crave or disdain close connections
- Whether you tend to self-isolate and minimize the importance of relationships
- Whether you are always on alert and fearful in a relationship and have problems with healthy boundaries
- The degree to which you are emotionally intelligent and can identify and act on your feelings
- Whether you are repeating the pattern by being attracted to emotionally unavailable friends and romantic partners
ACTION STEP: Be brave. Do not allow yourself to become overwhelmed. Remember to take care of yourself. Read a little everyday and then, stop. Stop and pray, and ask the Lord to define for you what you are reading, and how you are feeling, about what you are learning? Life is a journey. It is a marathon not a sprint. If I've learned anything in my young 65 years it is there will always be a tomorrow, at least until Jesus calls us home; and then it won't matter anyway. We are not alone. We are just the ones talking about our issues, but everyone has them. We have decided that in order to have a better tomorrow, we will start the process today.
I am proud of you. Many of you are changing, and I see it, and hear it in your voices. Some of you I have never met, but I pray one day I will. Until tomorrow, be the best you--you can be. I believe in you and you need to believe in yourself.
I am proud of you. Many of you are changing, and I see it, and hear it in your voices. Some of you I have never met, but I pray one day I will. Until tomorrow, be the best you--you can be. I believe in you and you need to believe in yourself.
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