The Body Keeps The Score.

In The Body Keeps the Score, Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal—and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.

I have several favorite chapters in this book. It took me quite a while to get through the pages. I would be triggered by a memory and then have to put the book down, and have a good hard cry. The ugly kind of cry you don't want people to see. There was a chapter on "The Unbearable Heaviness of Remembering." I thought I wanted to remember, so I could move on. It's not that easy. Remembering was like weaving back together a thread you had held on to, but had no "Why?" Why did that one memory stand out (that one thread), when nothing was attached to it? Then, you find that it was pulled from a much larger more painful memory that you'd long forgotten but, "The Body Kept the Score."

My coach challenged me to read ten books on the subject of Abandonment. First, the books were hard to find. Then, I had to sift through the pages to find what I was looking for. Now, I realize the book I've been looking for, is inside of me. Thousands are waiting on it. Singles are waiting, because they can't begin to look for their Boaz, or their Esther, because they can't trust. Married couples need the book still inside of me, because they want to be close, but fear intimacy; so only have a surface relationship. The elderly need to read the pages I am still penning because, all of their life they knew they were different and couldn't find the solution to the loneliness, and fear they have felt all their life. 

Maybe what's inside of you is not a book? Maybe it is a song yet to be sang? Maybe it is a painting yet to be seen? Maybe it is a business yet to hire that young professional? Whatever it is? God wants to help you. But, God is found inside people. People that God may bring your way, but in your woundedness you may push those very people away.

Find someone to coach you along your journey. If you don't know what that one thing inside of you that can't wait to be set free is? All the more reason to find someone to talk to. If it's your pastor, great. If you don't have one, ask around to friends about where they go to church? Who is their pastor? Who is their coach? Contact me here or on my website renaperozich.com to see if we might be a good fit for one another.

People need people. I believe in you and you need to believe in yourself.
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ACTION STEP: When you begin to be healed of childhood trauma and neglect or adult PTSD, you begin to own yourself again. Once we own ourself we can give ourself fully to God and fully to those we love. Once we begin to understand ourselves we find empathy we never knew we had. Patience we thought we lacked goes to work on ourselves and others. We feel alive, not just like we are watching our life go by.

I believe in you. Believe in yourself! Make an investment in you!​