It's good to be back. I missed writing to you all, but believe me emotional work takes a lot out of you. I shared my story for the first time at the conference in Maryland this last week. It was a safe place and the attendees were amazingly receptive and loving. I will always remember the day. I kept hearing these words in my head over and over, "Before my pen touched paper or my fingers touched the keys I was writing chapters over and over in my head as I laid awake rehearsing my life and trying to put my memories in some form or shape so I could put me back together again." Dr. Keith Johnson has taught that in order to become strong and whole at telling your story, you must tell it 100 times. Well, I have 99 more times to go!
I began the book in my heart and now it is showing up on my screen. I believe God has called me to bring it to the world. I have a completion date for accountability reasons. However, my coach has assigned me to read a book a week for ten weeks on the subject of abandonment. I will be referring to these books in my own book. So, today I thought I would begin to share one with you. This one (see photo below) has not been as tough of a read as, "The Boy who was raised as a dog," by Bruce D. Perry,Maia Szalavitz
In the Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog the book shares, what happens when a young brain is traumatized? How does terror, abuse, or disaster affect a child's mind--and how can that mind recover? Child psychiatrist Bruce Perry has helped children faced with unimaginable horror: genocide survivors, murder witnesses, kidnapped teenagers, and victims of family violence. In The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, he tells their stories of trauma and transformation through the lens of science, revealing the brain's astonishing capacity for healing. Deftly combining unforgettable case histories with his own compassionate, insightful strategies for rehabilitation, Perry explains what exactly happens to the brain when a child is exposed to extreme stress-and reveals the unexpected measures that can be taken to ease a child's pain and help him grow into a healthy adult. Through the stories of children who recover-physically, mentally, and emotionally-from the most devastating circumstances, Perry shows how simple things like surroundings, affection, language, and touch can deeply impact the developing brain, for better or for worse. In this deeply informed and moving book, Dr. Bruce Perry dramatically demonstrates that only when we understand the science of the mind can we hope to heal the spirit of even the most wounded child.
Here is the one I am reading now. This one for me is hitting home harder. It is a bit easier to understand and less traumatizing for those of you out there that maybe have not been abandoned in severe ways.
I began the book in my heart and now it is showing up on my screen. I believe God has called me to bring it to the world. I have a completion date for accountability reasons. However, my coach has assigned me to read a book a week for ten weeks on the subject of abandonment. I will be referring to these books in my own book. So, today I thought I would begin to share one with you. This one (see photo below) has not been as tough of a read as, "The Boy who was raised as a dog," by Bruce D. Perry,Maia Szalavitz
In the Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog the book shares, what happens when a young brain is traumatized? How does terror, abuse, or disaster affect a child's mind--and how can that mind recover? Child psychiatrist Bruce Perry has helped children faced with unimaginable horror: genocide survivors, murder witnesses, kidnapped teenagers, and victims of family violence. In The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, he tells their stories of trauma and transformation through the lens of science, revealing the brain's astonishing capacity for healing. Deftly combining unforgettable case histories with his own compassionate, insightful strategies for rehabilitation, Perry explains what exactly happens to the brain when a child is exposed to extreme stress-and reveals the unexpected measures that can be taken to ease a child's pain and help him grow into a healthy adult. Through the stories of children who recover-physically, mentally, and emotionally-from the most devastating circumstances, Perry shows how simple things like surroundings, affection, language, and touch can deeply impact the developing brain, for better or for worse. In this deeply informed and moving book, Dr. Bruce Perry dramatically demonstrates that only when we understand the science of the mind can we hope to heal the spirit of even the most wounded child.
Here is the one I am reading now. This one for me is hitting home harder. It is a bit easier to understand and less traumatizing for those of you out there that maybe have not been abandoned in severe ways.
Was your mother too busy, too tired, or too checked-out to provide you with the nurturing you needed as a child? Men and women who were “undermothered” as children often struggle with intimate relationships, in part because of their unmet need for maternal care. The Emotionally Absent Mother will help you understand what was missing from your childhood, how this relates to your mother’s own history, and how you can fill the “mother gap” by:
- Examining the past with compassion for yourself and your mother
- Finding the child inside of you and learning to mother yourself
- Opening to the archetype of the Good Mother
- Allowing friends and loved ones to provide support, guidance, and other elements of good mothering that you missed
ACTION STEPS: Begin to resource yourself with books to help you see your blind spots. Check out the web by doing a Google search on what to do with what has happened to you. And finally--may I ask you to pray for me that I can get on paper the journey from hurting to healing that is so surprising me; as it is giving me the tool to bring hope and healing to others. You are on this journey with me and I appreciate you. Please tell others about my Blog and have them subscribe to RPMDaily.net and also to my YouTube channel. Thanks so much. Make a great day!
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