I recently read that before the printing press was invented everyone came to their spiritual leader or head and asked for wisdom concerning decisions or had a discussion with the person God had ordained to be in their life to lead and guide them. Today, this is almost unheard of.
In order to grow we need people in our life. People that love and care for people are not afraid to correct, instruct or manage others. People that love others take chances that those they correct, instruct, and manage, may leave or run from them. This is the chance we take as leaders and feeders of the Word of God. If the people we lead have a "Growth Mindset" this will not be hard or painful. However, if those the Lord puts into our lives have a "Fixed Mindset", it can be extremely hard and painful for both of us.
This is by Pastor Dr. David Ireland. It is powerful and instructive.